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Letters to the editor
November 25, 2003
The issue of Gay marriage is very much in the news after the Massachusetts
decision yesterday. I can only imagine the divorce courts and the custody
battles if the unions end. Perhaps soon, many more women will understand the
need for America to change laws and weed out the gender bias in family
court. Perhaps soon, many more women will know how it feels to be a
non-custodial parent. We will see how women feel when they are on the
receiving side of the unfairness as a non-custodial parent.
As far as the women's groups who are fighting the groups of non-custodial
fathers and mothers trying to get gender bias out of the family courts, will
they change their mind and realize that children need contact with both
parents when both parents are of the same sex? Now, fathers are being
pushed out of their children's lives after a divorce. So, who will get
custody and child support for the children in a same sex union? The more
feminine partner?
Just my thoughts...
Please read the story below...
Mom vs. Mom
Custody battle puts new twist on precedents
Regina
Apparently, Stanford University recently put out a research study
looking at what barriers exist for women in the corporate world. Here's
what they reported: There is no glass ceiling. Women themselves are
opting out of the top jobs, for lifestyle reasons or because they don't
want the pressure. They blow the whistle, like Sherron Watkins did at
Enron, or they just take off. Can't take the pressure? Are you kidding me?
Women who make it to the next-to-the-top rung of the ladder, the ones who
are even in the position to decide between sticking it out and leaving,
have already taken more pressure than most guys can even comprehend.
They've smiled at enough gratuitous comments - walked the tightrope between
telling the truth and drinking the company Kool-Aid - and slashed their way
through enough uncharted territory to write a best-selling novel, or two.
The most senior women I know are uniformly tough, articulate, smart, and
incredibly flexible - they wouldn't have survived the last twenty years of
corporate life any other way. So why do they leave? Because they look at
that top spot and say, it's not worth it. There is nothing there that
I need, and the cost - to me, to my family, to my relationships - is too
high. That's the takeaway I'd love to see from this study. Let's not
conclude; There's no glass ceiling, so if women are leaving our
organizations, what can we do about it? Oh well - better get back to work.
Let's say instead; If the barrier isn't made of glass, but rather some
toxic chemical that women won't expose themselves to, let's get rid of it
and clean up our act. After all, if something is noxious to women, can it
be healthy for anyone?
Kristi
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